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Teen’s suicide sparks grief, anger and calls for justice
Thursday, January 17, 2013
David Phan. Photo courtesy of newamericamedia.org
By TERRY K. PARK, Hyphen Magazine
After their son took his own life on Nov. 29, David Phan’s family received two boxes. One box, sent by Bennion Junior High, the
At a briefing for local Asian American activists at the offices of the Refugee and
“Dear Phan family. Your son David is a life saver. I’m going to miss him...This kid is amazing, has a great personality...I’ve never met someone who could make me smile when I’m deeply sad. He saved my sister’s life. She was going to kill herself, but you [David] talked her out of it. If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have a sister because of him, your son…I will not forget you [David]. I am letting balloons go in the air to honor you. I’m so lucky to have met him. He always made everyone smile...If someone was sad, he’d ask if they need a hug. He was the hero of the school. If only I was still there, I would’ve made sure this wouldn’t have happened.”
Tragically, it did. And now a Vietnamese American family grieves for the loss of their son and seeks answers.
The answers given by
In response to these statements, the American Civil Liberties Union of Utah sent a letter to Granite School District Superintendant Martin W. Bates (made public in The Salt Lake Tribune), charging that Horsely "released confidential and protected information about David in violation of federal and state law, as well as making false and misleading statements and insinuations about David and his family." The letter continues, "Most troubling to David's parents and to us is that this pattern of wrongful behavior appears to be crafted to deflect questions about any potential responsibility from the District and to try to cast blame and suspicion on David and his family." The school and the school district have been asked to cease and desist from commenting further on David and his family.
Clearly, things were not "going well" for David. And as more social media chatter and newspaper articles came out, it became clear that there was a crucial dimension to the bullying that caused much anxiety for Bennion and the
As reported in The Salt Lake Tribune, while David's family lovingly supported him when he came out as gay, David shielded his parents from the "horror and negative experiences" he faced at Bennion.
The desire to protect the parents from knowing that one is being bullied is quite common, according to Dr. Amanda Di Bartolomeo, clinical psychologist at
Unquestionably, Bennion's chain of command failed to provide David the support he needed and wanted. It has also failed many of its other students, as indicated in many of the letters from current and former classmates addressed to the Phan family. So what, exactly, was the tipping point for David?
As reported in The Salt Lake Tribune, on the day David committed suicide, Bennion alerted his mother, Phuong Tran, to let her know that her son had been suspended. When Tran rushed to the school, she was told by the principal that the reason for David's suspension was because they found a condom in his backpack. When asked why a condom should justify suspension, she was told that they would discuss it further the following Tuesday.
Whereas David’s Vietnamese family unconditionally embraced him when he came out as gay, Bennion and Granite turned its back on David as he endured anti-gay bullying -- and used the condom to punitively construct David's sexuality as a threat to the school.
Many Asian Americans around the country turned to social media to express a range of responses -- shock, anger, sadness -- in response to David's suicide, the reports of anti-gay bullying, and the statements issued by Bennion Junior High and the
Pahole Sookkasikon, a PhD student in American Studies at the
Dennis Chin, member of the Gay Asian Pacific Islander Men of New York (GAPIMNY), posted on his Facebook wall: "Really triggering for me. Been thinking a lot about what the right response to this would look like. And how deep our wounds run, and persist, despite 'getting better.' And...how I even made it here alive..."
Local groups in
To that end, according to Ha, the Phan family currently has several options to pursue multiple complaints and lawsuits. Complaints will be filed by the ACLU to the Civil Rights Division of the Department of Justice and the U.S. Department of Education. The Phan family also has accepted pro-bono services from the
Emilio Manuel Camu, president of the Asian American Student Association of the University of Utah, had this to say: “As a student that graduated from the Granite School District, I’ve witnessed and been a victim of the neglect by the administration whenever bullying was discussed...They continue to blame the victim and the family and try to uphold their status as a wonderful and safe space for students to learn."
Despite its status as the headquarters of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Salt Lake City has surprised many by coming to be known as a gay-friendly city, culminating in its selection by The Advocate as “the gayest town in America” (based on an active gay nightlife and anti-discrimination protections for gay and transgender people, adopted by the LDS Church in November 2009). That said, the
- According to a 2011 report by the Utah Department of Health, Utah teens commit suicide more often than their peers in other parts of the nation, with two youths treated for suicide attempts every day in Utah;
- According to Valerie Larabee, executive director of the Utah Pride Center, more than 70 percent of LGBT teens in Utah recently reported being verbally or physically harassed for their sexual orientation;
- According to a 2005 national study by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), 44 percent of LGBT students of color reported experiencing verbal harassment due to both their sexual orientation and race/ethnicity, while 13 percent of LGBT students of color experience physical harassment due to both sexual orientation and race/ethnicity;
- And according to a recent report released by AAPI Nexus, findings show that Asian American students are bullied in
All together, these harrowing numbers speak to the hostile climate that face gay APIA youth like David, a climate that many schools and school districts across the country cannot, or will not, alleviate.